Are You Out of Sync?

out of sync 1Have you been feeling tired and run down lately?  Are you easily distracted, irritated, and less attentive?  Are you fatigued, have headaches can’t sleep or sleep too much? Are you trying to keep it all together so no one notices?  

I can tell if I am in that place again by just looking around my house. The first sign is the chair in my bedroom where clothes have piled up, and then it moves into the bathroom where my products are all over the place and oh and the big indicator is my closet… once the clothes start to become a big heap and I can’t find anything I know I am in that place again.  What place is this? The place where everything has gone to pot and everything in your life is upside down and where you are no longer in tune with your inner self. And you are OUT OF SYNC!

How does one get here?

out of sync 2To think this time I actually saw it coming… I sat there as if watching a movie on TV seeing my life slowly unravel. I watched shaking my head like, “Will she ever get it together and how in the world does she find anything in that closet. Wow if those bags under her eyes get any darker I will think she was in a fight. Wait a minute didn’t I see her here a few years ago dealing with this? No, it can’t be her she was doing so well and had it together, how could this happen to her…Again?”

How? Once again I stopped sticking to the basics… I stopped watching what I was eating, stopped taking my vitamins, and stayed up way to late, getting through the day on less than 4 hours sleep.  I was rushing from one place to the next trying to do everything for everyone else with no thought to myself or my well-being. 

I stopped considering the things that kept me fit, healthy and at my best and I replaced them with those bad old habits of “I can do it tomorrow” or “one more bite won’t make a difference” or “I can get some sleep once I’m done with this.” Yep excuse after excuse took over and before I knew it I was running away from my life, from me.  I just got tired and didn’t care anymore about keeping it all together (though deep down inside I knew this was temporary and that the real me would prevail). However, this continued until days turn into weeks and very little got accomplish and I was just going through the motions knowing I would crash sooner or later.

And guess what? I did! I woke up one morning and I could barely get out of bed, it hurt to just walk. I had worn my body down to the ground and I struggled to the bathroom looked in the mirror at my puffy face, my back hurting, both knees ached and everything in my body felt broken! I was so disappointed to be in this place again knowing better.

But what can I do, should I beat myself up? Seek therapy? Pay for another gym membership or all 3?

 NO! STOP! THINK!

I had to get a grip and realize that no matter what has happened I am still me, I am not this bad person my mind wants me to believe because I let things get out of sync nor have I failed myself. I had to accept where I was at this time and realize that setback happens to all of us. Sometimes when you don’t pay attention to where you are going you lose your focus and that’s exactly what happened to me. I had all the right tools understood the process and knew how to implement it but I was missing the key factor…I had lost my Focus. It was now time for me to re-group and get back to the basics but because I had let it go for months I knew it would not be easy.

out of sync 3First I had to talk it out with the Most High and tell him what I had done to myself and how much I needed his help and to please help me trust him and myself to do this. Then I had to get some serious rest and put myself back on a scheduled that allowed me at least 7 hours of sleep (it took weeks before I finally felt rested). I had to get back to drinking 10 cups of water a day, take multivitamins and drink lots of herbal teas. Once I started doing this I slowly had enough energy to tackle my pile of clothes in the chair and put the laundry away. Then the next week I tackled the bathroom and two days later I had energy to tackle my closet.

I was starting to feel charged again, not 100% but better. So I sat down and wrote out a weekly plan of things I needed to get done understanding that I could not do everything in one day but if I spread it out in the course of a week I could relax because I knew: on Sundays I evaluated my progress and set my schedule for the upcoming week, Mondays was the day to clean out the fridge and family day, Tuesdays was grocery and paying bills, Wednesday I could meet with the sisters, and Thursday I could set aside time for studying, early Friday I could give the house a total cleaning and prepare for the Sabbath. Once I gained momentum and trusted myself with sticking to a plan I then started changing my diet and incorporating 60 minutes of exercise a day (this is still a struggle but I am getting fit). Very basic stuff I know but when you’re out of sync you have to go back to the ABC’s.

So here I am today, I still have the same responsibilities but I am managing them – they are not managing me. I feel better and know I am on my way to the best version of me! I am healing everyday and paying more attention to my choices understanding that I don’t get to take a break from my life and that I must fully live in it each and every day!

 My advice to anyone feeling out of sync is…

“Every morning begin your day with the Most High praying to him for his guidance and support, asking him questions like – Ahayah what do you think about this or Ahayah should I go here first or there. Share your inner thoughts, feelings and concerns with him and in doing so you will develop a relationship with him where he becomes your best friend and you take him everywhere you go throughout your day!

Next, meditate on your goals to give PURPOSE to your day and every night before you go to sleep, pray and think about your vision of the ulti­mate You—Strong, Spiritual, Healthy, and Happy. Reaffirm your belief in yourself and your goals, and stick to them! Make it happen! Be the REAL YOU and run the Race of Life to the fullest so you will no longer be out of sync!”

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38 Comments

  1. saeeda hunter March 5, 2016 at 3:51 am

    almost every comment on here pertains to me! I needed this to. I am in a slump. I say Im lazy and my best friend say its a rebellion against the most high.- any thing to not be where he wants me to be. Even tho i m like I dont wanna, I have to do like this article says for my sanity! I want everything to happen by magic and it cant cos im not a witch. I do feel better from my best friend telling me how I tackled issues in the past that were even greater. But see you have to allow the Most High to come in but your blocking him. clutter in your house clutter in your mind, the guilt the shame and the power not to pick your life up (get yo life) because all of its draining you. Praise the Most High for sending me what I need when I need just like how he provides for the birds tweet tweet!

    • hebrewwoman May 3, 2016 at 11:04 pm

      SO TRUE I FEEL THE SAME WAY EVEYTHING IS TALKING TO ME HMMM

  2. Ileana January 22, 2016 at 1:48 pm

    Thank yoi for the article, gave me good ideas to follow for myself and household. I thank the MostHigh for this website!

  3. kea MX November 25, 2015 at 12:02 am

    Hi, this is my second day on the site, from London originally South African. The article was amazing, thank you.
    I can relate. I am 26 and a single mother of two beautiful girls, 4 and 2 years and I work as well. Some days I am in sync some days not. It gets very overwhelming and as much as I always want an organised life, I am realising that some days I just have to let it be… Really, in an evening I would have to choose, do I wash the dishes with my last ounce of strenght or do I savour the moment with my girls and Ahayah and that would mean tomorrow’s dishes will include today’s dishes. I haven’t figured it out yet, there is so much to do in a day and a week and yet there is so much I am already doing. I have a note book now of my daily accomplishments because its easy to feel like you are not moving or making progress, until you actually recap what you have achieved in that day. What I have decided is that I will not let the organisation of my daily life defeat me, I will not be defeated/discourage by my bedroom, or the hectic rushing mornings or the dishes that go away and always come back! I am accepting my day and my progress to a better me, i am consistent in striving for a life in sync, thanks to my Heavenly Fathers help who puts no pressure on me, I must say I am getting better. And that’s the truth, for example, before it would take us 2.5 hours to get ready in the morning and we would storm out leaving the house upside down and I would be screaming at my girls and every other car on the road like its their fault we are always running late, but the great improvement now…it takes us an hour and a half to get ready and this time we are on time
    and there’s no screaming but peace and love and laughter, even though the house is upside down, lol. So I know eventually we will even leave the house right side up lols by the help/grace of our Heavenly Father. He reminds me that I am made for the day I am in, I will not be defeated! I am more then a conquerer! And most of all…not that we have already attained!

  4. Adrean togia June 13, 2015 at 7:49 am

    Thank you , thank youThank youThank youThank you.

  5. Magdiyal12 May 30, 2015 at 10:54 am

    Great article, I can really relate. Please keep the articles coming. Great work!

  6. paige April 21, 2015 at 2:34 am

    Shalom
    Ahayah I pray you deliver me from clutter and confusion.
    Thank you

  7. msivy00 March 27, 2015 at 5:17 pm

    This was just what I needed.

  8. Yasha377 March 9, 2015 at 6:48 am

    This article just helped me so much!!! I’ve been in this predicament for over 3 years!! Thank You for sharing this…

  9. littleone March 6, 2015 at 9:59 am

    I needed that. Great post! I’ve been feeling out of sync lately and this helped reaffirm me in the right steps to take. I thank The Most High Ahaya for your wisdom and how you translated it to this blog. 🙂

  10. benjamitequeen86 February 3, 2015 at 7:23 pm

    I’ve been feeling out of sync for time now. I been struggling to get back but couldn’t see my way. I asked the Most High to help me get back and I have been seeing progress daily. Praise the Most High Ahayah!!!

  11. kingdbishop October 14, 2014 at 7:01 am

    Great article, it really hit home.

    • Reigna December 10, 2014 at 2:49 am

      I am 25 years old and could relate to this! As a matter of fact, every woman i KNOW can. I plan to share this with them as well. I also am struggling with the new found truths brought to light, not in understanding them (actually these are the ONLY teachings that have made sense) but in finding like-minded people. So many I’ve tried to tell, and to my astonishment, many friends and especially family have stopped talking to me, or are treating me as if I’m a bible thumping ignoramus. But this blog has helped me feel less alone. Thank you.

    • Shanti January 7, 2015 at 7:03 am

      I needed this. Thawada. Its good to have honest people that understands a women prospective. I was out of sync but im getting back on trap.
      All praise to Ahayah bahasham Yashaya.

    • Janicedates41 January 9, 2015 at 3:10 am

      This article almost made me cry! I feel out of sync and I think it’s because Ive totally shut myself and my children from the rest of the world. I finally made myself call my mom. And that was the best I could do for today. I study about 4 hours a day and teach my 11 and 12 year old boys. Thanks for the info I will be pushing to get back on track! 🙂

  12. toknow1 September 21, 2014 at 3:58 pm

    I am so thankful for this knowledge. I am middle aged female and a business owner for the last twelve years. I lost a son four years ago and I have not been able to regain my enthusiasism. I have no energy, no interest in anything; just an overall feeling of,

  13. chococha16 September 15, 2014 at 9:37 pm

    New to this site registered this evening 22.32hrs gmt London. This post is what I needed to read, but my problem is when it comes time to pray in the morning I forget and in the evening I start then fall asleep while praying! Any advice how to tackle these via the Word? I’m seeing the negative effects in my life.
    Thanks…

    • robwill September 22, 2014 at 12:20 am

      I had those things approach me before, it’s a tactic o the enemy to stray the strong away from their strength, prayer. Here’s the key. Have your dinner satisfying portion before 8:00. Your body needs at least 2 hours to digest your food. Then pray. Pray focusing on your goal to wake up and speak to AHAYAH in the mornings; excited about knowing him and wanting a stronger relationship with Him. It’s like preparing yourself for your next encounter with that new special someone. Ready for the next day, in visioning what you’ll wear and what you offer for the day. You know her/ him but want to know them more. It’s a love thing.

    • Reigna December 10, 2014 at 2:57 am

      I understand that completely. I personally have had a similar issue, that’s when I got creative. I began praying at traffic lights, on the bus to work (I commute to work, driving would make no finacial sense), before meals, after brushing my teeth, after being reminded of my faults like after I just sinned, before leaving home (asking Ahayah to protect my travels and my mindset when dealing with others). Honestly, you have to think of him as your physical father too. In a sense that you should think of him as your protector, provider, and confidant. Taking him out of this kind of box we subconsciously put him in and incorporate him in everyday life.

      • Scheaney34 February 6, 2015 at 8:19 am

        I find myself doing similar things such as praying at work if I forget something or did something at lunchtime that was inappropriate. Asking for guidance, forgiveness.

  14. silentsymbol September 14, 2014 at 3:11 am

    While I was reading this, I just couldn’t believe how much this is me. I know I’ve been running myself down, but to see it in black and white is such and eye opener. This world doesn’t make it easy to connect with The Most High on a daily basis, between deadlines, work, home, school, and family. I’m blessed to have 10 minutes alone with HIM at all sometimes. After reading this, I’m going to make it my daily mission to out HIM first and then to schedule my days around The Most High.

  15. mimaofzion July 5, 2014 at 1:44 pm

    Good timing for me to receive this message. Did not know that I was out of sync but after reading it gives me a plan to get back on track. So many of the things like clutter , run down feeling, and not feeling in control helped me to know it is time for me to get back on track. Thank the Most High for giving you this to share.

  16. daughterofjudah June 24, 2014 at 5:03 am

    I REALLY FELT THE HOLY SPIRIT LED ME HERE THIS NIGHT TO READ THIS SPECIFIC ARTICLE BECAUSE I HAVE BEEN IN SUCH A SLUMP AS OF LATE BUT HAD BEEN CONTINUALLY
    BEATING MYSELF UP
    IN MY HEAD AND
    CONTINUOUSLY
    ADORNING MY SPIRIT WITH MY VERY OWN HANDMADE FISH SCALE
    FLESHLY GARMENTS TO HIDE MYSELF FROM HIS FACE DUE TO MY OWN SELF PITY, SHAMEFULNESS AND MY PERSONAL FFEELINGS THAT I HAD LET HIM DOWN IT SEEM AS EACH DAY WOULD COME A WIGGLE WOULD COME ALONG WITH IT AND THEREFORE THE MORE I WIGGLED IN DESPERATION TO BE SET FREE FROM THIS STRONGHOLD THE FURTHER I WOULD SINK INTO DEPRESSION & DESPAIR IT WAS AS IF MY HANDS WERE BOUND BY CHAINS OF SHAME & SADNESS MOUTH WAS HELD TIGHTLY CLOSED WITH TAPE OF FEAR I HAD SLOWLY BEGAN TO ENTERTAIN THE IDEA OF GIVING UP THAT LIVING CLUTTER FREE WITH CLARITY OF PEACE OF MIND MAY SOMEHOW NOT BE FOR ME MAYBE THIS WAS A CLUB THAT I WASN’T EXTENDED MEMBERSHIP UNTIL I WAS DIVINELY GUIDED BY MY MOTHER, THE SWEET SWEET HOLY SPIRIT, TONIGHT TO GIVE ME HOPE, GUIDANCE, COMFORT, PEACE & ASSURANCE THAT I AM WELL LOVED, NEVER FORSAKEN AND MOST OF ALL I AM FORGIVEN!!!! AND THEREFORE NOW LOOK FORWARD TO A DAVID EARLY MORNING RISING PRODIGAL APPOINTMENT WITH MY DAD & FAMILY I LOOK FORWARD TO STRIPPING OFF THSE HIDEOUS FIG LEAVES OF MINE & WILL GO APPROPRIATELY DRESSED COVERED IN THE GLORIOUS GARMENTS OF THE REDEEMED BLOOD OF YASHYA CHRIST MY LORD & SAVIOUR I WILL RESPECTFULLY BOW BEFORE THE HOLY ONE AND MERCIFULLY HAND OVER TO HIM MY ASHES IN EXCHANGE FOR THE BEAUTY HE HAS ALWAYS SEEN IN ME !!! I LOOK FORWARD TO DRINKING THE WATER THAT WILL NEVER LEAVE ME THIRSTY AGAIN!!! FOR I AM HIME!!!! I LOVE YOU DAD

  17. okortram June 8, 2014 at 8:51 pm

    Discipline makes everything easier.

  18. Ahyil-Kawa May 24, 2014 at 12:40 pm

    Well written and on point!

  19. pamela144 May 22, 2014 at 6:48 pm

    I really needed to read this i am out of sync and had no understanding of it. This will truly help get ” me” back. All Praises to the MostHigh and may he continue to bless the GOCC.
    SHALOM!

  20. Shamiotzi May 18, 2014 at 11:11 pm

    I feel terrible. Allergies are becoming grievous, woke up out of bed my back hurt, the bags under my eyes are darker, my head is stuffy and I feel dizzy. I took my vitamins and did some sit ups and push ups before I read this, also I just registered for this site today. So wow reading this was very on point. Shalom!!

    • unitedas.1 May 20, 2014 at 12:10 am

      Awww…I pray you feel better family. When I get seasonal allergies, I use my humidifier at night with several drops of eucalyptus oil and it really helps me.

  21. qamzion May 17, 2014 at 1:39 pm

    This is certainly a wake-up call for all.

  22. Itazaha yapath May 10, 2014 at 1:23 pm

    Thank you for sharing this, Through the Most High I can get through this whom strengthens me to get through each day. I get out of sync at times, I manage to get through it, by praying to The Most High. All Praises to Most High!

  23. Wilbert Young Jr. May 8, 2014 at 11:13 pm

    Thank you, needed to read this, came right on time.

  24. JuvarandCatherine May 7, 2014 at 3:21 am

    Awesome post!! I have felt like this for many years. I don’t know if I am coming or going and all I wan to do is sleep. I will defiantly pray every morning and try to drink more water. My question is how do I et organized. I feel bombarded especially when the children get home. I just need some tips on how to get this house organized with 5 children. Thawadah for this advise and Shalom

  25. Ariela May 5, 2014 at 3:45 pm

    Great post! I love this! I know every woman can relate to this. 🙂

  26. Yakalyah May 5, 2014 at 1:30 pm

    Great piece! Plugging in to the Most High every morning will help us to stay on track. This means to not only read His word and pray, but also to take time to sit still and listen to the wisdom from the Holy Spirit. If necessary, get up earlier than usual just to do that. Taking your good advice and doing these things will give us strength, guidance and wisdom for the day.

  27. tammika May 4, 2014 at 3:36 pm

    WOOW! amazing piece!! something i’m sure every woman can relate to.. i know i most certainly can!! thankyou for sharing.. encouraging.. inspirational words right here!!

    Also comforting to know that we are not alone an all go thru the same struggles!!

    Being able to identify them and now having our Power Ahayah to help us overcome.. is truly the beginning of finding our strength!!

    Blessings xxxx

  28. unitedas.1 May 4, 2014 at 3:55 am

    Wow this is me as well, I feel as though sometimes it takes everything in me to keep it together. I have that “me” syndrome trying to do everything on my own and nothing seems to go as planned. I praise the Most High that I can overcome through the power of Ahayah Bahasham Yashaya. I will try my best to pray at least three times a day, drink more water and start working out! Great advice, thawadah!

  29. Missisom1818 May 4, 2014 at 3:10 am

    I am out of sync and have bedn this way for years ithas been hard trying ro focus and then i have just become so tired mentally. I have the pile ofof clothes in the chairs my closet is in disarray. I will take her advice and pray forst to rhe most high sleep drink water and take vitamins very good advice. This and the marriage blog truly speaking to me…

  30. rbutler May 1, 2014 at 3:58 pm

    This is a really good blog… in this microwave culture we live in, it is extremely easy to get out of sync or even side tracked. I feel the key given here is communing with the Most High in before you start your day. Foundation is everything.

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