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Some Insight on Marriage, one Sisters story…

During a wedding shower a friend asked if I could share some insight on marriage and how to keep it together? I started to think of what advice or words of encouragement I may say as I took the question very serious. So I spent some time thinking of what to say and I asked the Most High how does he want me to answer this question? Through prayer I thought about this long and hard and the reflections from my past failures and lessons learned came to my mind…

See I was married before for many years and I thought I understood marriage and relationships because I had read every book known to man in search of answers and I spent a lot of those years really working on my spirit so that I could be a better person and work hard so my husband would love me the way I wanted to be loved. In doing all of that I still didn’t have the love I needed and I believed at that point my husband was the one who was not willing to grow or change so when I had the scriptural grounds for divorce I ended my marriage.

Several years later I found the Truth and got baptized. Thereafter I met my husband and at the exact moment I met him I knew he was the man the Most High told me I would marry years back. We married with me knowing deep within that he was the Man I would fulfill my destiny with until the ends of time. I followed my spirit and I dedicated myself to Ahayah and my husband and together we set out to serve him.

Over time something happened, things started to feel familiar again and I was really confused and blown away and I was like why am I feeling this way walking around with an attitude, being moody and having petty fights with my husband – for this is not suppose to be happening to ME this time! Remember I was the “one” who read all the self-help books, I learned to be a better person, I had grown and most of all I married my KING! We are supposed to be happy and in love… this makes absolutely no sense! Why, Why Ahayah why???

It took a lot of time for me to be given the answers and it is only recent that I received understanding. You see it was ME the whole time; the issues had always been ME!

One thing I knew true was that my relationship with my husband was only as good as my relationship with the Most High and if I didn’t have a solid one with GOD I could not expect a good relationship with my husband. So I had to turn back to GOD for the answers but this time I wanted to search out the Most High and discover him like I had never done before. I wanted to learn about him in new more vast and broad ways. I wanted to know what he really did and create and the actual reasons why; so I started to search for him in areas I never looked before, I began studying his Works of the heavens, earth, sea, thunders and lightening, fire and water, the sun and moon, the seasons and years, the days, and hours and I was absolutely astounded! I learned how the earth was made to represent us…our flesh from the clay of earth, our blood from the dew, our eyes from the sun, our bones from stone, our hair from the grass of the earth… and my love for the Most High overwhelmed me!

I started thinking how do I honor and glorify this amazing GOD? And something said start with the Holy Days because he said follow his Laws, Statues and Commandments …, and a desire grew for me to want to observe the Holy Days in the fullest sense and so I started studying everything I could on the Holy Days; when they are to be observed, the significance of why “each” one was established… like the First fruits/Feast of Weeks in (Leviticus 23:15) which was to represent each of the four seasons Noah experienced while in the ark and how they were to be a sign to let him know when to exit the Ark and this Holy Day is observed on the exact day Noah exited the ark with his family – wow I was fascinated. From there he led me to understand other discoveries of his Power in the earth and its elements and how if he told a mountain to move so one could pass how that mountain would obey because its governed by the laws “he” created in nature and how one day we to could learn how to use the earth to obey us! Wow!

Now what does all that have to do with marriage you might ask? A lot!

My reflections on my journey led me to comprehend what marriage IS and is Not … See we are suppose to “use” the challenges, joys, struggles and celebrations of marriage to draw closer to the Most High and STOP asking of marriage what GOD never designed it to be. The truth is we can’t look for another person to complete us because spiritually speaking that is idolatry. We are to find our fulfillment and purpose in GOD. . And if we expect our spouse to be ‘GOD’ to us, they will fail every day. No person can live up to such expectations.”

Everyone has bad days, yells or is downright selfish. Despite these imperfections, GOD created the husband and wife to steer each other in His direction.

GOD did not create marriage just to give us a pleasant means of having babies and providing a nice home to raise them. He designed or should we say “created” marriage as “another” example of his existence like the examples I learned in his creation of the universe.

So today I understand that the closer I get to the Father, the more I learn of him, share with him who I am by prayer and telling him how I feel, what I need and want the “easier” it is for me to honor my husband and love him as a Man of the Most High and be a willing helper that the Most High sent me to be to him… so when my husband is tired I am his pillow, when he is weak I am made strong, and when he is worried the Most High is our comforter. So though at times I might get mad at him I be damned if I let anybody try and break his spirit.

I am his rock and soft place and the one to reinforce him to go back into the harsh elements of this world, I help lift him up. And if anyone tries to form a weapon against him I will be his Shield so that he can get away and be a King for our Nation – because that is what a Queen does.

For a wife is a relief to her husband when the winds are against him!

In closings we leave you with this quote…

 “If happiness is our primary goal, we’ll run or get a divorce as soon as happiness seems like it’s never going to be possible or we will want someone else as soon as our husbands seem less attentive… But if our marriage is to Honor the Most High and be a living example of his love in us and his creation we will be on our way to a healthier perspective of marriage and in that we can be happy!

All praise to the Most High, Ahayah and his son Yashaya!

2017-06-01T19:18:56+00:00

26 Comments

  1. Shalah Zamir
    Shalah Zamir July 30, 2017 at 2:04 pm

    All prasise to AHAYAH ba ha sham YASHAYA wa RAWACH qadash!!! for that,
    Thawadah My sister for sharing, I will keep that in mind when my king arrives…

  2. Coletta
    Coletta May 24, 2017 at 2:53 pm

    WOWWW, All praises be to the Most High, seriously brought tears in my eyes. Thank you Ahayah in the name of Yashaya. I loved your story and it hit home and I will pray, study and continue to seek the most high. Thank you for giving us that encouraging story.

  3. Tina Estrada
    Tina Estrada April 15, 2017 at 8:53 pm

    Wow talk about familiar. This article is definitely that. It is so true that we look for our spouses make us happy to be everything to and for us and that I now realize as well is not the case. We are not to idolize no one or nothing. We are only to follow TMH. The article hit home and now it is to pick up the pieces and do what needs to be done on my own behalf. Thank you for that share.

  4. Holly3
    Holly3 March 19, 2017 at 2:05 pm

    Thawadah Sister,
    You speak words of encouragement and truth. I realized that the problem was also me and my expectations of what a marriage should be. And after listening to the elders and studying I realized my union with my spouse was only as good as my union with the TMH.
    I truly believe that if we ALL stay on the path of righteousness by following the TEN our unions with the TMH and our mates will be bliztful.

  5. IamMary46
    IamMary46 February 19, 2017 at 2:27 pm

    I just finished reading your post and I’m glad the spirit of the Most High led me here. I’m currently single and praying for my husband, but more importantly, I’m praying to be a good wife. Thank-you for this enlightening post; it is truly edifying.

  6. Jonrasmith
    Jonrasmith January 10, 2017 at 12:22 am

    Wow! What a wonderful way to honor the Most High, and give such wisdom on something so important! Thawadah , Barak Atha ! Shalawam !

  7. Charlotte Carter
    Charlotte Carter December 30, 2016 at 4:06 pm

    Shalawam sister! I read your testimony about two years and again today. My daughter in law asked me to send her some scriptures on marriage, first I started to go into the scriptures and search for some, but then TMH pulled me away from that, first of all, I’m too close to her to be the one right now that has to direct her. Second, I feel the most high is still dealing with me and the meat is a bit too tough for me to try and chew. I prayed about it because I know there was something I could do to help without personally getting involved. I thought of you and I came back to this page to read your testimony again, and more than half of it, I didn’t remember reading although I did read the entire testimony. Then I read the comments and saw that I had also commented on it. Wow, I don’t remember writing this, but I know I did because it’s what I felt in my soul. But this testimony blew me away, and it truly was if it was the first time I’d read it. The whole time I was reading it, I’m hoping n praying this would be of some help to her. Again sister thank you soooooooooooooooooo much for sharing your love for TMH with us! Blessings forever!

  8. Naamah Israel
    Naamah Israel September 13, 2016 at 7:08 pm

    Just finished reading your story, you are bold and thanks for sharing. The spirit directed me here because there are somethings here that I must stay mindful of; honoring and respecting my husband, knowing that we are not perfect, only Ahayah is. I was able to relate to this part of your testimony because even when I feel that I am right having an argument won’t solve anything. I to learned to pray to the Father concerning our marriage and Ahayah gives us correction. Therefore, I trust in the Most High.

  9. Investigateit
    Investigateit July 12, 2016 at 9:05 pm

    All praises to the Most High Ahayah in the name of Yashaya. I read the story and the comments. I too needed this. This is my second marriage. The first husband is deceased.
    I am new to this marriage. (2 months short of a year) I have learned a great deal, but I still have many faults. I failed to ask the Most High to give me guidance into bettering myself. So at this point in my life I’m seeking guidance like never before. I’m so ashamed of myself for being so blind. My prayer is that the Most High honors my repentance and spares me another day to get it right!
    Thawadah sister for your boldness to give your testimony. I mostly thank the Most High for directing me to the website.

  10. Hebrewwoman
    Hebrewwoman May 3, 2016 at 10:40 pm

    WOOWW THAT WAS SO BEAUIFUL THIS REMINDED ME OF MY VERY SLEF AT THIS VERY MOMENT AND THIS HELP IT LIKE U WAS SPEAKING TO ME THANKS SISTER FOR THESE WORDS OF COMFORT ALL PRAISE TO THE MOST HIGH

  11. Simone Waight
    Simone Waight May 2, 2016 at 4:47 am

    Thanks for sharing. So much you articulated oozes love for The Most High and your husband. I learn more every day

  12. Taysta
    Taysta March 17, 2016 at 12:14 am

    Very encouraging, thank you sister I give all praises to the Most High.

  13. Sharahahla Labaawath Yahawadah

    All praises to The Most High. This is the same revelation I received from the Father bahashem Yashaya wa ruach. Thawada for your testimony

  14. Chaazaqah Yasharahla
    Chaazaqah Yasharahla February 3, 2015 at 5:08 pm

    Wowww this is beautiful and inspiring! Gave me a lot to think about! Thank u for sharing!

  15. Charlotte Carter
    Charlotte Carter December 20, 2014 at 6:32 pm

    Wow sis this is very powerful and edifying! At age 52, I am still somewhat clueless, but have since spiritually grown through the guidance of our wonderful n loving father! This testimony has blessed me tremendously sis, and I am grateful to have sisters such as yourself to continue helping us to grow in this word. John 8:32 being in truth help me to realize that my 25 year marriage ended because of my expectations and leaning to my own understanding of what to expect of a husband. We are almost always clueless when we say I do. We take our husbands and place them in that fantasy that we created inside our own heads, never realizing that he was only in that fantasy because we placed him there. Proving we have a strong desire/need to control everything! Including our husbands! Being in this truth for 4 years and allowing tmh to live in me, it has brought me a long long way from where I use to be and I have been blessed with finding a family that I can truly learn from,… Sisters like you are sent from the most high. I never feel That I’m too old to learn, and being with this church family I honestly learn something new from Ahayah every day/all day! Thank you my beloved sister for allowing tmh to use you in ways of helping others! Really I love you all so much even though I’ve never seen your face, Blessings sis!!!!!!!! <3

  16. Bridget Boyd
    Bridget Boyd November 24, 2014 at 5:19 am

    Speaking from a 23 year marriage with only one man and marriage I can honestly say my journey with the Most High have been on point. Everything I do in my marriage I/we can see the Most High moving and involved in every word, action, and decision. To this day I honor the Most High guidance in my marriage.

  17. Edna Aparecida G. Viana
    Edna Aparecida G. Viana July 19, 2014 at 8:23 pm

    adorei seu testemunho muitas vezes as coisas de DEUS passa despercebida no nosso dia a dia ,,,,,,,,, as vezes DEUS fala mas não ouvimos,,,,,,,x
    só vamos ouvir quando o leite se derrama ,,,,,,,,,e ai ficamos atentas,,,,,,,,a natureza e a palavra do ALTÍSSIMO é maravilhosa são profundas e faz parte de nossas vidas,,,,,,porque fazemos parte dos sonhos e dos projetos DEUS,,,,,,,,sabe o ESPIRITO que intercede por nós é o mesmo que intercede pelo nossos maridos ,,,,,,,temos que estar todos nos mesmo ESPIRITO e vai haver um equilíbrio em nosso casamento,,,,,,,,,huuuuuuuuu preciso falar para mim mesmo? graças a sua palavra vou mudar a situação fazendo isso que escrevi no comentário,,,,,,beijos DEUS TE ABENÇOE

    • GOCADMIN
      GOCADMIN July 27, 2014 at 9:25 am

      Shalom Sister
      We have tried to translate, please correct us if we are wrong.

      I loved your testimony often goes unnoticed things of God in our day to day,,,,,,,,, sometimes God speaks but we do not hear,,,,,,,
      we only hear when the milk is poured,,,,,,,,, and there we’re attentive,,,,,,,, nature and the word of the Most High is deep and wonderful are a part of our lives,,,, , because we are part of dreams and projects of GOD,,,,,,,, you know the Spirit who intercedes for us is the same as intercedes for our husbands,,,,,,, we have to all be in the same spirit and will be a balance in our marriage,,,,,,,,, huuuuuuuuu need to talk to myself? thanks for this word will change the situation by doing this I wrote the review,,,,,, kisses, GOD BLESS YOU

  18. Arlene Arzu
    Arlene Arzu June 29, 2014 at 12:27 am

    Woman of wisdom sister. I really love your advice. To me marriage is a big step and its not a game. So im preparing my self first but preparing spiritually n he message me through u sister thank u for the knowledge.

  19. Binah Rishah
    Binah Rishah June 19, 2014 at 2:13 pm

    Praise be The Most High Ahayah. Blessings to you Sister and blessed be your words. The Most High continues to hold my hand and lead me to that which I should see and hear to help me through my struggles. Your words and insight have truly blessed me and opened my eyes to see what marriage is meant to be. Thawadah Sister and Shalom.

  20. Deanna Washington
    Deanna Washington June 13, 2014 at 4:04 am

    You are so right sister, I had never thought of marriage in that way…I always was looking for the wrong things and I guess The Most High led me here to read this post today.. I fear Ahayah and love him also..

  21. Ebony Sanders
    Ebony Sanders May 22, 2014 at 4:32 am

    Shalom Sister that was really good advice. I’m going through so much and really needed to here that. Sometimes I feel so alone in this battle but I know The Most High is using me for something right now….

    Shalom

  22. Stephanie Moore
    Stephanie Moore May 10, 2014 at 2:25 pm

    Thank you for sharing that sister. I am always blown away by the power and blessings of the Most High, and how he works in our lives when we seek him.

  23. Catherine Armstead
    Catherine Armstead May 7, 2014 at 3:00 am

    Wow Sister! That was an amazing example of what a great wife should be. Thawadah
    Sister Omenah

  24. Sawan Perach Yasharahla

    Wow sister that is indeed powerful. Praise the most high for that lesson. I needed to here that.

  25. Yapah Shayarath
    Yapah Shayarath May 2, 2014 at 12:06 am

    I really appreciated your story. I am in that same exact place in this moment. Having to realize that “Your” the real problem can be a hard pill to swallow at first, but if you want to put Ahayah first and draw closer to him, then we must do so with out pride. We all have self-examination in order to grow, I just praise the Father that he has had mercy on me and gave me time. My relationship with him is the most important thing, because I’m realizing that, that is the only way I’ll be able to fight against all adversity’s. Praise the Father for your wonderful story, as I have a sister that’s enduring. Shalam to you sister, and keep striving in the fight of this spiritual warfare.

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